Not a bad mission statement

(image: nett.umich.edu)

Broadcaster Keith Olbermann recently gave an insight into his motivations and goals for a controversial segment of his show…

“This ordinarily is where you would see our ‘Worst Persons in the World‘ segment,” Olbermann said Monday late into the broadcast. “For more than two months, I’ve struggled with its value. We suspended it for a time, there was a small clamor to bring it back, and bring it back we did.

The segment was born in humor with clear intentions: criticism, sarcasm, satire, calling out, even ridiculing. But a lot of people — especially those who don’t watch the show — still think that I literally mean, these are the three worst persons in the world.

“There is potential danger in that,” he continued. “So the name has got to go. But the purpose — to employ the French philosopher Bergson’s explanation that laughter is a social sanction against inflexible behavior — that remains relevant and important and maybe more so than ever before.”

“…born in humour with clear intentions: criticism, sarcasm, satire, calling out, even ridiculing“.

Yup. Good stuff. I aspire to and hold the same intentions for aspects of thePaepae.com (I also want to encourage, inspire and learn.)

Just so long as it’s interesting, right?  😉 – P

PS Another good model is Anderson Cooper’s ‘The Ridiculist
PPS I’m still not saying I’m a saint. Crikey. Bleurgh.

A subliminal message to ‘investors’ getting ‘educated’ [groan] about distressed US properties

Neil Jenman says: DON'T SIGN ANYTHING. (pic by Peter Aranyi)

That’s actually me under the cap  … I got it from Neil Jenman with some other cool stuff when he visited Auckland a few years back to harass the local property spruikers and give some advice to buyers and sellers … I wear it with a chuckle.

It reads DON’T SIGN ANYTHING … with Jenman’s website www.Jenman.com and his tollfree number. (He’s got a book of the same title.)

I have to say, you know, there are times when that seems like pretty good advice. Like for instance, when you’re faced with ‘this deal is too good to last, be quick, don’t miss out, going fast, you’d be crazy not to, this will change your financial future!’ -type persuasive sales talk.

As one unfortunate punter seeking ‘education’ (cough, splutter) from what Jenman calls a ‘selling machine’ learned first hand and reported, considerable pressure (real, implied or imagined) can umm, … well … let’s just say it can occur. i.e. Pressure to ‘proceed to contract’ … i.e ‘sign here, here and here’.

Just as travel can loosen a tourist’s wallet and credit card (we’ve all done it), sometimes the spending/investing decisions made during these types of  ‘research tours’ or ‘educational’ workshops and bus tours are later regretted. Sometimes regretted bitterly, in fact.

Meanwhile the hyped-up internet-pushed  ‘gold rush’ sales pitch for US rentals continues. Remember the UK-based spruikers hawking Memphis distressed property? Look: Now they’re pitching ‘bargains’ in Buffalo, New York. That rings a bell — wasn’t that one of the areas the Sydney Morning Herald warned against?

Hurry, hurry, hurry! 'Cash only deal'. Oh dear me.

Am I being too cynical? Hmmm.

Leonard Cohen: A remarkable life. Indeed.

A must for any serious fan of Leonard Cohen

A dear friend gave me this terrific book for Christmas. I love and am inspired, challenged, chastened — simply moved by Leonard Cohen. (‘I know his melancholy is your joy, Peter, but can we change the music please?’ my beloved wife said to me once.)

The book is a must-have for serious Cohen fans (and it’s a great read!) It’s a detailed, insightful biography and Anthony Reynolds’ sources seem pretty good. Several of Cohen’s long-term collaborators (including players on his recent ‘never ending’ world tour, which I caught in Monteal and Wellington. Wow) have contributed, but the book is not a hagiography. Well worth reading.

The proofing is shocking — some real howlers (vacation for vocation, words missing, someone whose name slides from Anne to Ann to Anna within two pages) but the thoroughness of his narrative and the just plain ‘interestingness’ of the content more than makes up for it.

One quote worth mentioning (and Reynolds has gone to great and effective effort to give the book a rich texture with direct quotes and quotes from other sources) reminded me of Hunter S. Thompson’s damnation of the music industry as ‘a cruel and shallow money trench…’ (which I quoted relating to Gin Wigmore recently):

The record business is not filled with wonderful people.
The business itself is pretty sllmy, pretty cutthroat. The making of records is a wonderful art but the business is awful, run by lawyers …
— Record producer John Lissaur quoted in Leonard Cohen – A remarkable life by Anthony Reynolds.

Hmpf!

Snakes alive!

I’m not going to say which gaggle of personable snake oil salesmen sprang to mind when my niece read out this joke from our Christmas crackers this year. (It’s true.)

CRACKER! Ignore the endearing spelling mistake (... which also reminded me of someone.)

Poisonality. Bwahaha! Who? Take a guess.

Watch what you’re doing …

Rock musician Larry Norman (1947-2008) (image: flickr)

Larry Norman‘s name came up on one of my friends’ Facebook walls last night … I loved what this musician gave as his gifts — and his influence. He was a cool cat with great intelligence and, it seemed to me, a sense of mission and virtue. He was a gutsy individualist, a trailblazer as others have noted.

This is what I wrote on FB:

It was a privilege to work with Christian Birch to promote Larry (all in black) Norman on one of his NZ tours… My friend Murray Broom and I got to hang out with him quite a bit because we organised the logistics etc. of his Wellington concert
Larry gave me a whole new perspective on music royalties when he ‘grabbed the bag’ from our sales of his LPs (yes, vinyl) citing the lack of a licence agreement for NZ. The guys at Word Records in Levin — whose stock they were— were NOT impressed, but were ultimately very gracious to us.

I remember we talked about many things. Some of which, like his courageous example, are still with me.

I liked this song ‘Watch what you’re doing’, in the spirit of ‘Why should the devil have all the good music?’

There’s consequences to that action …

SHOT IN THE HEAD: Emergency personnel used a stretcher to carry Rep. Gabrielle Giffords outside a shopping center in Tucson, Ariz. on Saturday. (Pic: James Palka/Associated Press via New York Times - click)

As I see it, Gabrielle Giffords (‘whom the authorities called the target of the attack‘) is a victim of the partisan climate of hate engendered by political differences and the hateful abuse by some Republican ‘leaders’ of their opponents (‘The Left’) as enemies — like, in war! Some use that rhetoric and emotional energy for electoral purposes. This isn’t the first and it won’t be the last time people get hurt by such cynical, thoughtless stridency.

From last year Rep. Giffords (D-AZ) responds to earlier vandalism incident at her office and being placed on Sarah Palin’s ‘crosshairs’ list.

“We’re on Sarah Palin’s targeted list. But the thing is the way that she has it depicted has the crosshairs of a gun site over our district. People do that they’ve got to realize there’s consequences to that action.”

Talking Points Memo

Sarah Palin certainly read the icons as BULLSEYES ...

An aide to Sarah Palin claims the crosshairs depicted in her now-infamous target list of Democrats were not actually gun-sights, and that it’s “obscene” and “appalling” to blame Palin for the shooting.

“We never ever, ever intended it to be gun sights. It was simply cross-hairs like you’d see on maps,” said Rebecca Mansour on the Tammy Bruce radio show. Moreover, there was “nothing irresponsible” about the image, and to draw a line connecting Palin and Saturday’s shooting is “obscene” and “appalling.” […] Mansour called the crosshairs “surveyor marks.”

Talking Points Memo

Map cross-hairs”? “Surveyor marks”? Bullshit. The link is self-evident. Transparent sophistry. Continue reading →

Learning how smart our elders can be …

Mark Twain (image: nalanda.nitc.ac.in)

“When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much he had learned.”
— Mark Twain

That’s true. And funny.

And then there are times when it seems the old guard really has nothing to offer us but judgemental rigidity, opposition, and ballooning irritation … and irrelevance.

Far from the wisdom we may have hoped for, there are times when calls to support ‘traditional values’ (sometimes citing ‘simpler times’ or ‘it never did us any harm’) are merely a thin veil masking ill-founded prejudice.

Sometimes people in power seek to corruptly (tough word, but accurate) shield themselves or other oppressors of ‘the different’ — the ‘out group’. Or (in true Tory tradition) they may seek merely to preserve the existing power structure and privilege.

And sometimes, I’m sorry to report, the driving force in some people’s lives (old or young) appears to be just undeclared personal animosity, or a desire to disguise or conceal weakness or sin (their own or others).

The attainment of grey hair, or miles on the road, it seems, can be accompanied by either Continue reading →

Not exactly a whodunnit

‘Dispersing lies’ — that’s what I’ve been accused of doing, by ‘expert in lying‘, spruiker Dean Letfus.

No real mystery here.

His detail-free allegation (by broadcast email and on his blog) comes with bonus faulty logic and an extra smear topping: that I am allegedly doing this (‘dispersing lies’) as ‘a competitor’ — which is kind of an understated assertion of ill-motives on my part.
i.e. not just a liar … but ‘dispersing lies’ because of commercial rivalry! (Thoroughly corrupt, in other words.)

What value has such an accusation against me, without the slightest hint of evidence in support?

Of course smearing one’s critics is a time-honoured (but dishonourable) practice. Why trouble yourself, if you’re Dean Letfus, explaining how exactly it is you say you’ve been maligned — with a detailed rebuttal — when it’s easier just to jab a vague allegation of impropriety at the whistle-blower?

It’s shabby, in my opinion. And so was his response to this … Continue reading →

Adam – a movie about Asperger syndrome

I recommend you watch Adam, a terrific film about the struggles of someone with Asperger syndrome.

Adam — I recommend this movie

What a lovely, moving, poignant story! See this movie if you have anyone in your life who you think could possibly have Asperger’s tendencies. It will help you empathise (is this my word for 2011?) with their journey and some of the obstacles that they — and those who love them — face.

The movie is illuminating and, for those who care about people with Asperger’s tendencies, it tells an inspiring and sympathetic story … it is moving without being cloying or overly sentimental.

Well done to writer/director Max Mayer and his team of filmmakers and the cast. Wonderful. Read more about it at Wikipedia

Thanks to my good friend Karen S who put the DVD in my hand without knowing the topic is one of the themes of this blog.

And if you haven’t yet, listen to the soundtrack of this insightful documentary ‘Oops, Wrong Planet’, by Australian Stephen Ramsey … broadcast by Radio NZ’s Our Changing World: under the title Living with Asperger Syndrome

What does your ‘opinion’ reveal about you?

image: youropinioncounts.org (click)

People seem not to see that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character.
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

Everyone is entitled to my opinion.
attributed to pop singer Madonna

Now, there’s a powerful pair of thoughts.

Expressing one’s ‘opinion of the world’ through writing is, by its very nature, the result of a function of filtration. The same is true of spoken or conversationally expressed opinions, by virtue of time constraints, but let’s discuss writing…

Consider the stream-of-consciousness ramblings of the Beat writers or the sometimes self-indulgent rants of Gonzo ‘journalists’ whose writing sought to be as much about their reactions to ‘what happened’ as what happened itself.

Even with these less filtered versions of ‘an account’, there is still a focus. There has to be.

Someone’s journal (whether recorded on calfskin or WordPress) can be all over the place or it can be a series of meditations on a theme. Loose or tight.

When I look back at a year or so’s scribblings here at thePaepae.com, I perceive both randomness and, if not actually a ‘pattern’, at least recurring themes. Is that my life? No, of course not. My entries in this blog reflect what has captured my attention sufficiently — that I guess others might be interested in — that I can be bothered recording/offering it for discussion here. (‘A platform for dialogue’, remember?)

Naturally, themes will occur as new stimulus hooks onto previous topics, and new developments emerge in ongoing ‘stories’. I’m also very grateful for comments where other people bring their insights, intelligence — and lately: information — to bear on a discussion. Great.

Past influences

One’s interests today bear the mark of our interests before. (Hence, I guess that recent unedifying message from a grave-dancer telling me about the recent struggles of someone whom HE perceived as a past ‘enemy’ of mine.)

We remain connected — until we unplug, that is — to issues, events and people to whom we have been connected in the past, for good or ill. These connections can lose their usefulness, and even become toxic, but nevertheless remain in place through inertia, or habit … or lack of better alternatives. Continue reading →

In their shoes …

I was surprised recently when someone whom I know is in financial trouble himself emailed me with news of another person’s financial and personal struggles. He said he thought I’d be ‘interested’, as the person and I had previously had some negative interchanges. What the hell?

Truly, it struck me as ghoulish, almost akin to dancing on someone’s grave, to receive this attempted encouragement to delight in someone else’s downfall. No thanks.

I saw this road safety sign on the Desert Road on my way to be with family, and agreed with the sentiment, and also the point of view …

Encouraging empathy as a road safety message (pic by Peter Aranyi)

The longer I live, the more I learn that EMPATHY is the factor that sets people apart as truly human. What does it take for us to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes before we condemn them?

Sometimes, (many times?) the kindest thing to do in any situation is tell the truth. i.e. Not to make excuses or pardon or ‘cover’ someone else’s sin or offence, but to find a way to speak the truth — even the harsh, judgemental truth — with compassion.

So as we count down to 2011, here’s to the whistle-blowers who overcame their squeamishness and fear, who took their courage in their hands, who overcame their desire to be ‘liked’ (i.e. to avoid criticism) to give their gifts in 2010.

And let’s hear it for those who can reprove without condemnation, and oppose without totally losing their empathy for those whose behaviour they judge.

The escape of exnzpat, Part 6

Becky wakes

Lilith turned back towards the woman and the child. She placed one hand on the boy and the other on the woman; a spark of static leapt from her fingers and into their sleeping forms. Imperceptibly the right hand of the boy began to move under his sheet, and so too did the left hand of the woman, under hers.

Slowly, the two hands slid from beneath their respective sheets and reached towards each other. Lilith guided their stretching hands into each other’s grasp. Upon each face, there was a change, small and imperceptible, but it was there all the same. Their cheeks flushed just a little redder and the woman’s lips moved just ever so slightly to form a quiet comfortable smile.

“A little humility would do you good exnzpat; stop thinking of yourself!” Lilith said, and walked away from me. She walked towards the edge of the glade. “It is time to leave. These two are far from ripe and the Moon will soon be up. We must let the Moon do her work. Come exnzpat! Come Lincoln!”

I picked Becky up and followed dutifully. We left the woman and the child to the Moon. I was becoming tired; too tired to ask Lilith what any of it meant.

“Exnzpat?” Lilith asked.

“Yes.”

“I take it from your earlier silence that you do not think me a good woman?”

I could tell this walk to the apothecary was going to take longer than it should.

Three of Time, one of Space – but also – one of Lilith! Continue reading →

Fallen hero?

Yes, I'd pretty much call it a hate campaign against Mark Hotchin. (NZ Herald)

There’s a particular kind of anger and outrage sparked when you feel someone has shafted you financially.

I’ve been reflecting on the strength of feeling expressed by some commenters in the thread ‘Is this how Shaun Stenning handles a request for a refund?‘ and the public and private reversal of fortunes experienced by some former financial ‘high-flyers’.

Someone who has made promises that you trusted or made claims of financial ‘strength’ or ‘integrity’ or ‘security’ … using words and documents which basically say ‘you can trust me’ or claims that things are ‘designed to withstand storms’ … really does set themselves up for a fall when things go against them.

Even more so, using the vehicle of a personal guarantee to set minds at rest about an innately risky venture you are promoting (or spruiking.)

A case in point: Hanover Finance (who we last discussed here). The fall from grace of this previously hyped-up but reasonably successful, for a time, money lender (“built to withstand the toughest conditions”) has provoked what can only be described as a hate campaign against the former director Mark Hotchin.

Reporters are door-stepping him and hassling him at the airport, and on holiday … and he receives continual news media coverage of the most intense and unflattering kind, constantly questioning why he should have any ‘luxury’ in his life when the people who trusted him have lost so much.

A gummint agency has frozen his assets and poured scorn on his claims that his weekly commitments can’t be met by $1000 per week. He is seen by many, it seems, as a figure worthy of contempt. Not a good place to be.

Journey of grief

It creates bilious feelings when someone whom you trusted (rightly or wrongly) — because they made statements, promises and ‘projections’ on which you relied — lets you down in a way that affects you financially.

It may be they may have promulgated claims of financial ‘strength’ or ‘integrity’ or ‘security’ … using words and documents like ‘first ranking debenture’, ‘security’, ‘guaranteed’ and slogans like ‘you can trust us’. (These devices along with copious declarations of their own good character are often used to soothe potential targets’ fears.)

When someone who overtly claimed superiority (moral or to do with ‘expertise’) actually proves to be weak, it hurts … especially if they gave you abundant voluble ‘reasons’ to trust them: “I am a man of high integrity, an expert, one of the best, I know what I’m doing.”

Confession time

In that context, I read the recent sobering confession (is that the right word? Maybe owning up to reality fits better) of a local personality who features in these pages from time to time.

He admitted that he’d been through ‘relative hell in many ways’ over the last two years, and, despite his sales-focused roadshows and the affirming messages he’d peddled to his followers throughout, he and several of his ‘clients’ had in fact been struggling just to ‘stay afloat‘ … and he has, sadly, found himself in a position where he can’t meet financial obligations. Continue reading →

Happy Christmas

NZ Christmas Tree — Pohutukawa (pic by Peter Aranyi)

Happy Christmas to all readers and contributors at thePaepae.com

My wish for you is that you get the chance to re-connect with family and loved ones. Whatever your religious or spiritual beliefs, may you get the time and opportunity for some positive reflection … and I hope that you take it!

I’m going to be on holiday with my family over the next few weeks so offline much of the time (that’s just how we do it), hence posting and responding to comments here will be delayed.

Best wishes, Peter Aranyi

Sometimes it seems pretty obvious

In my in-box … an obvious scam…

… why would anyone respond?  (But I guess it only takes a small percentage …)

PT Barnum: “There’s a sucker born every minute.”